Recently it’s been hard to keep Jordan on task. He wants to do all these things, go out with friends, play sports, go on the computer, text this person and text that person! It’s a crazy life being an eleven year old apparently!
Jordan recently brought home a violin from music class. He said all the kids are learning different instruments. He was at first a little interested in the violin but that shortly changed and he hasn’t brought it home since that first week. He’s just happy he didn’t get microkorg xl or something else like one of his friends got and is having some different issues. But, he says its really hard so I have told him when they allow him to bring it home again to bring it and we can try again! He gets frustrated and wants to quit, but we talked and he said he will try. He said he isn’t a quitter, I just think he needed a little pep talk!
He is struggling not wanting to do homework, he has a complaint every time we ask him to do one of his normal chores. So I sat down and figured out some ways I can help him focus, get the things he needs to get done accomplished and help in anyway I can.
I find telling him how great he plays, how wonderful his sentences for homework are and what a great example he is for his younger siblings helps.
If he has three pages of homework to do and really doesn’t want to do it in the first place – giving short breaks between pages gives him time to get a drink, a snack and just clear his head for a few minutes.
SIT DOWN AND HELP
I take time to sit with him, help when he needs it and really just be there in case he has a question or needs a little support. I don’t do any of the work for him but I watch and help as needed.
Often times having them talk out a problem, explain a note or speak through an answer helps them figure things out on their own.
Yep. I’m not above them. He has a cellular phone that we pay for monthly so if he wants to keep it he needs to keep up with his chores, homework and behavior at school. So a quick reminder really gets that fire going.
Jordan is extremely smart. He’s also a preteen boy and extremely dramatic and once in a while mouthy. These are just some tips I’ve learned along the way that help us out. Maybe they can help you out, or someone you know.
Preteens are super fun, the teenage years well … I’ll need a whole new set of tips to get through that now won’t I?