Okay, so I’m going to be real here for a minute and maybe even a bit controversial but please, hear me out. I used to be one of these people who would see something they disagreed with online and jump at posting a comment. Then, I smartened up. Who wants to deal with drama online? I for one don’t but I’m pretty sure we all know at least one person who does, am I right?
There is no other security blanket for adults besides hiding behind a computer screen to really tell the world how you feel. But it’s tacky, and immature. So please, if you do this – stop, stop right now.
I see it on my own Facebook, and twitter accounts. I also see it so much on Online Magazine posts. Celebrities get the worst of it, and although they are in the public eye it really baffles me the things people feel they have a right to say. You know free speech and opinions are dandy, but do people have to be so classless while exercising their rights? Apparently so, at least on Social Media.
You know what I mean. Not even happy news can be happy anymore, there’s at least one to five thousand people who have something negative to say to try to bring everyone else down. Cool. Because free speech and right to an opinion y’all! But, what if that happened to you?
What if you posted something looking for advice or well wishes and people just started to tear you down? I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t fly so well, so why do it to others? You can act as if you don’t care but you know deep down that you’d be crying on the inside, or behind your computer screen.
So, if you think you are even the slightest bit guilty of this, and I think we all have been at some point, stop and think for a second about these four points;
1. You look absolutely ridiculous. You do. Honestly, I can’t tell you how many comments I’ve scrolled past rolling my eyes thinking what an evil troll that person is and how miserable they must be in their own lives to stoop to such a level.
2. Your opinions are just that your opinions. Not everyone has to agree nor will they. Doesn’t mean you have to start drama over it, doesn’t mean anyone else’s opinions are wrong, or that they NEED to hear yours. A healthy, good, clean debate is wonderful. But attacking online, and being so nasty isn’t.
3. What if that was you or worse, your child getting negative hate, comments, or being personally attacked online. How would you feel? I’m pretty sure, you’d want to jump through the computer and strangle whoever is causing you or your child hurt. Right?
4. While I know we are all very grateful for freedom of speech and for the fact we are all entitled to our own opinions I do believe there is a time and place for everything. If you have to hide behind a computer to say something, and know you couldn’t ever say these things in front of your parents, your kids, your loved ones or even out loud to a stranger. Don’t post it. The internet is the internet, once it’s out there – it’s out there. There is no taking it back, no back peddling and although you may feel tough and untouchable perhaps using a little bit of empathy and compassion would be smarter instead of making yourself look like a doof.
Of course — Not everyone is going to agree, which is fine. But I’ve now got you thinking haven’t I? There is NO reason to be a social media snob. Someone extremely wise once told me “Smile and Nod” when dealing with people so why not do the same online? Smile, and scroll on by. Not everyone needs your opinion, while I’m sure it’s very vaulable and high priority in your head; not everyone in the world needs to know it. Some things ARE better left unsaid.
Social Media is full of people with opinions, questions, hate and love. Seek to be someone who isn’t dishing out the negative and be the positive. If you are a parent, think about how it would look if your children saw this online behavior or even if another child saw. We are what our kids see, we are what our kids look up to. They learn and grow from us. So, why not be the change? Just something to think about my social media lovin’ friends. Happy 2015.. May you be the change!
Are you more of a Social Media snob or Are you one who just Scrolls on by?