Finding Sanity in Motherhood

Posted on September 17, 2015 in Mommyness

Finding Sanity in Motherhood - You Can DO This! - sixtimemommy.comMany, if not all, can agree that motherhood is the toughest job out there. Not only is it physically tolling it is also emotionally tolling as well. You can never have a sick day and you always have to be on top of your game. It is easy to lose yourself in your role as a mom. Your needs always come second to your children making it easy to forget about yourself.

But as mothers, it is important that we don’t lose ourselves, that we remember we are someone besides a mom. Before becoming a mom, we all had other things that defined us. Just like any other job, motherhood is one that you can burn yourself out from. This is why it is so important to take time to refocus on ourselves. Trying to parent small children and teenagers can push any mother into insanity. Here are some ways to make sure you stay sane through this crazy adventure called parenthood.

Plan a day for yourself. When you are with your kids it is hard to even get just an hour or a minute to yourself. But this is so important to do so you don’t get overwhelmed. Make it a point to schedule out a day where you can spend doing all the things you love to do without little hands pulling at you every minute. Let your partner know that you need a day off and put it on the calendar. That way you can make sure you don’t miss it and can schedule around it.

Revisit your hobbies. Remember when you use to love to paint or read? Or what about all those DIY projects you pinned on Pinterest? Don’t give them up! Having a hobby helps you keep that sense of self. It is great to have something that is all your own and you do only for yourself.

Find your mommy squad. Having friends who are other mommies is so important. It is so nice to have someone going through the same craziness as you are. You can vent, bounce ideas or even get some great advice about parenting. Sometimes, it is so freeing to just vent to them because they know exactly what you are going through. Just remember that these friendships are a 50/50 partnership. Make sure you listen just as much as you talk!

Don’t take motherhood so seriously. This is the toughest to do but it is also the most important. You children are never going to do exactly what you want them to do. They are their own person, which is great and you will appreciate later. There are going to be times where things are just going to get messy and chaos is going to ensue. Remember that these years don’t last that long and try to embrace every moment of it.

Any other ways you can think of to help other mama’s keep their sanity?

46 Comments

  • Reply Robin (Masshole Mommy) September 17, 2015 at 11:58 am

    That is exactly why I make time to go workout pretty much every day. If I am not at the dojo, I go for a walk. It gives me a little time to recharge my batteries.

  • Reply Carlee C September 17, 2015 at 12:15 pm

    I have started going to Mom functions to socialize more. I feel that it helps keep your life in check and realize that other Moms are facing the same issues.

  • Reply Debra September 17, 2015 at 12:56 pm

    Finding your mom tribe in your community is key. They can help you out and vice versa and it’s always great to blow off some steam with other moms!

  • Reply Pam September 17, 2015 at 1:14 pm

    Taking time to yourself is important. You can’t take care of kids if you aren’t taking care of yourself.

  • Reply Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle September 17, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    Making time for yourself is one of the most important things you can do as a mom. It’s not just for you, it’s for your kids. You can’t be a good mom if you’re on the edge of burning out.

  • Reply Kelly Hutchinson September 17, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    I am so bad about taking time for myself. I need to reserve a few minutes each day just for me.

  • Reply Sarah Bailey September 17, 2015 at 2:30 pm

    This sounds like some fantastic ways to have some you time :) x

  • Reply Shell September 17, 2015 at 2:41 pm

    These are great tips. It’s so important for moms to remember that they deserve some time for themselves.

  • Reply Logan Can September 17, 2015 at 3:11 pm

    Lord knows I needed to read this post today! I definitely think that I take parenting to seriously sometimes. These are great tips! I definitely need to take a day to myself very soon!

  • Reply Beth@FrugalFroggie September 17, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    It is wrong to say find a wine that you like?

  • Reply Liz Mays September 17, 2015 at 5:17 pm

    These are awesome ideas. I had my sister going through some of the same stuff so it was nice to have her in my mommy squad.

  • Reply coolchillmom September 17, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    You are right on everything. I need to pass this on to the helicopter moms that take it too seriously and micromanage even their fellow room moms

  • Reply Annemarie LeBlanc September 17, 2015 at 7:44 pm

    There are times that I just want to raise my arms, scream, jump and pull my hair out! Motherhood is a tough job. I guess that is why God made it so that women would be the ones to handle this task. Women are emotionally stronger than men.

  • Reply Michelle September 17, 2015 at 8:30 pm

    These are really great tips, I think it’s so important not to have too high of expectations and just learn it’s ok to say no or that something didn’t get done- there’s always tomorrow. Great post!

  • Reply Toni | BoulderLocavore September 17, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    All great ideas. As to other ideas, not losing yourself is important which goes along with remembering your hobbies, friends, etc that you mention. It’s a marathon not a sprint and if you aren’t taking care of yourself, you can’t truly take care of others.

    • Reply Liz Mays September 18, 2015 at 1:42 pm

      These are some great points. It’s so easy to get caught up and forget about yourself.

  • Reply Amber NElson September 17, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    I need some me time, that is for sure! It’s been a long week!

  • Reply Ann Bacciaglia September 17, 2015 at 11:22 pm

    Having a hobby is a great way to relieve some stress. It is important to do things for ourselves. I find being a volunteer a great way to meet people and give back.

  • Reply Crystal September 17, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    The business of motherhood is what drives me bonkers. Slowing down and cutting back on my to-do list helps.

  • Reply Penelope September 17, 2015 at 11:49 pm

    My own mother was so stoic, very even-tempered. I think her way of keeping sane was to not get caught up in the chaos. I need to try her approach.

  • Reply Annie September 18, 2015 at 12:40 am

    Not a mom yet, but I would say have a day to hang with your girlfriends. That’d be nice, I think :)

  • Reply Theresa September 18, 2015 at 1:05 am

    I started doing once a night date nights with my best friend. It really helps us to get away and not be moms for a bit so we can come back and be better moms once we recharge.

  • Reply Kristi September 18, 2015 at 9:05 am

    Some great suggestions! It has always been an important aspect of being a mom… finding time for Me!

  • Reply Debbie Denny September 18, 2015 at 9:48 am

    Good advice. I enjoy a little time alone when I could get it. I think having a bit of hang time with the gals is good.

  • Reply Ourfamilyworld September 18, 2015 at 10:37 am

    These are great tips and I love the last one. I used to be so serious when I had my first born, then I realized that I should loosen up when I had my second child. Things were so much easier.

  • Reply Briana Carter September 18, 2015 at 11:23 am

    I work out 5x a week usually with a friend for “my time” as well as get a monthly massage to recharge!

  • Reply tess September 18, 2015 at 12:23 pm

    I try to get away for me time. I probably should get into more “adult” activities.

  • Reply Dawn September 18, 2015 at 2:57 pm

    Planning a day for yourself is needed. I know it helps keep me sane LOL!

  • Reply Seattle Travel Blogger September 18, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    Planning a day for yourself is a great idea. You could create a group of mom friends and take turns watching kids while each has a day off!

  • Reply Tracy @ Ascending Butterfly September 18, 2015 at 7:16 pm

    Being single and having no kids I end up being ‘forced’ into the ‘mommy squad’ role and often times have to put my foot down about it, I didn’t make any, and I don’t want to babysit all the time for people just because I’m single, that is why I am not making any for pete’s sake!!! I don’t mind pitch hitting on occassion but I don’t want to be part of anyone’s ‘village’. :-)

  • Reply Toughcookiemommy September 18, 2015 at 11:45 pm

    It’s so important to make time for yourself because you deserve it. I rarely get time all to myself and it can get stressful.

  • Reply Kiana September 19, 2015 at 1:22 am

    I’m not a parent, but I think these tips are great! I also think they’re great tips for serious relationships as well so I’ll definitely keep these in mind.

  • Reply Stacey September 19, 2015 at 1:32 am

    Taking time for yourself is so important. Being a mom is exhausting – everyone needs to to recharge! So glad you are getting the word out!

  • Reply Toughcookiemommy September 19, 2015 at 1:52 am

    Motherhood is definitely the toughest job out there. It certainly is not for the faint at heart.

  • Reply RaNesha September 19, 2015 at 6:17 am

    Great tips. I think most mommies need their me time.

  • Reply Chasing Joy September 20, 2015 at 11:50 am

    Thanks for these tips. I’m currently trying to conceive so I’ll be puting them into practice sooner than later.

  • Reply Yona Williams September 20, 2015 at 8:46 pm

    I can only imagine the ups and downs that come with parenting younger children and teens at the same time – it sounds like it can be like night and day. It’s probably tiring to have to switch from one mindset to the next for the varying age groups. I think it’s important when mothers take the time to enjoy the hobbies that bring them relaxation and joy.

  • Reply Amanda || Growing Up Madison September 20, 2015 at 9:26 pm

    I took motherhood a lot more seriously when I had my first one. Now I’ve had 4 I’ve learned to just “chill out”.

  • Reply melisasource September 20, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    Great tips here! I definitely need to do better in planning days for myself!

  • Reply Kristin September 21, 2015 at 12:30 am

    Loved This. Thank you for Sharing.

  • Reply Maureen@ADebtFreeStressFreeLife September 21, 2015 at 8:33 am

    As always good tips. There are so many ups and downs in parenting. It’s part of the whole situation.

  • Reply Tracey September 21, 2015 at 9:03 am

    These are fantastic tips. Being a mom is the hardest job out there and it is easy to lose your sanity!

  • Reply Michelle September 21, 2015 at 9:57 am

    Great tips. It’s so easy to forget to take time for yourself. Thanks for the reminder!

  • Reply Elizabeth September 21, 2015 at 2:44 pm

    I love when you say to find your mommy squad! It’s so important to make great friends at all stages of life! Such a sweet post.

  • Reply Kiwi September 22, 2015 at 4:23 pm

    This was a good write-up on motherhood. I love the info on having a mommy squad I want one in the future!

  • Reply Shannon Gurnee September 27, 2015 at 2:07 am

    This is a really great post. I would love to have a mommy squad where I’m at.

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