The past few months have been a learning curve for all of us in our household. With Jayden’s ADHD diagnosis it’s been a constant for me to research and make sure we are doing everything we can to help aide him with everything he needs.
All children no matter what challenges they face, or disorders they may have need motivation and encouragement. For Jayden, he needs extreme structure. He needs a routine that he can count on and people who are there to cheer him on not bring him down. This was a major problem at school this past year – there just wasn’t anyone trained enough to deal with him or know what he needed.
Jayden is the best big brother and loves helping out around the house. Before he was diagnosed he would argue with his brothers and annoy his sisters but now? With structure and a huge lifestyle change, and also some medication (I will touch on in another post) Jayden adores his siblings, especially his younger ones!Want to know what we’ve learned and how we have taken major freak outs and meltdowns that were a daily multiple time a day occurrence down to once every few weeks to not at all? Follow along below for more.
How to Motivate a Child with an ADHD Diagnosis
- Structure and Routine: If the day is predictable for Jayden things tend to go better. If he knows what the plans is and what our expectations are for him then he can be sure to meet those goals with a smile on his face, and feel proud about doing it.
- Attention: Make sure when you are outlining expectations and what the day will be like you have the child’s complete and full attention. If their mind is elsewhere, it’s just going to end up in disaster for all involved.
- Keep them moving: Instead of having the child sit around and feel the need to move around or fidget give them things to do to get them up and engaging in activities.
- Praise good behavior: This is what the school used to get wrong. They’d only and always focus on the negative. It made Jayden want to give up and just not bother. Always praise and acknowledge the good behavior. Otherwise, they think people only care when the bad is going on and they tend to focus on that to get attention.
With Jayden, we tried so many things and ended up failing. I started to stop, listen and watch. I’d see what motivated him and encouraged him and went with it. Very quickly I’d notice a big change and although we’d explain these things to the school they clearly didn’t understand or want to bother to change on their end, so Jayden sadly had a really hard time this past year in school.
Going forward he will be going elsewhere, and we’ll be helping the teachers understand Jayden better and make sure he’s set up for success instead of failure. Kids with ADHD don’t set out to be bad, or act out but a lot has to do with their environment and people around them. If you are making the necessary changes, and find what works for your specific child – it makes things much easier.As I mentioned above Jayden is on medication, so I will be making another post about that soon. It does have A LOT to do with his changes, but it’s that mixed with these lifestyle changes that are doing the trick!
As I said, we’re still figuring things out but so far it’s gotten a lot better and we are all thrilled with Jayden’s progress and response to everything we have been doing!