Motherhood, It’s Alright! | #ForBetterBeginnings #PlaytexMoms

Posted on March 21, 2017 in Ambassador/ Sponsored

This post is brought to you in partnership with PlaytexBaby. All opinions expressed are mine.

Motherhood is hard. For everyone, not just the new mom or semi-new mom. It’s hard, for everyone. Personally, for me, I get asked all the time how I “do it all” and I don’t. I don’t do it all, in fact, I barely do anything anymore. I’ll be honest, having baby #7 changed a lot of things for me.

For one I can’t just get up and go anymore, I always have to make sure I nurse the baby before I run to the store, go to an event, head to the school, or for a run. I can’t stay out for 4 or 5 hours shopping, at an event or do anything. If the baby doesn’t go with me I have 3 hours max before I need to get home to nurse her. It’s hard, it’s hard to plan and it’s hard to juggle but I do it. I do it because it’s important to me not only to be a good mother but also stick to my commitments and this year I’ve made a promise to myself to say “yes” more.

So, when people ask how I “do it all” instead of simply smiling and just saying, “oh it’s all I know” which is true it is ALL I know, I am just sick of saying it. Sick of people thinking I am some sort of superhero because I have so many kids, and a job — I don’t do it all. My house is a mess most days, the laundry is piled high, there’s always a kid or two angry at me because I cannot give them my 100% undivided attention in that moment… I just simply, don’t do it all. Six Time Mommy has grown to something I never imagined it would, so, I’ve become a lot more focused and busy where that is concerned so things sometimes take priority over making sure that pile of laundry in the corner basket is put away.

My kids are happy, healthy and clean (for the most part, I mean I have 4 boys… are they EVER really clean) and that is all I can really ask for on a daily basis.

Justin, who will be 4 this coming September is my little cling on. He, most days, is the reason not a lot gets done. He is very clingy to me, and always by my side no matter what I’m doing. Bless his little heart he is the biggest mama’s boy if I’ve ever seen one. Recently, he’s been learning how to be a bit more independent.

He likes to sit on the windowsill and play with his dinosaurs, cars, and trucks. He sometimes will make up excuses to ask me for things, “Can I have a drink? my throat is very grumpy and it needs a drink!” is the most popular one, and although we don’t allow food or drinks anywhere beyond the table — This year, by being a #PlaytexMoms and #ForBetterBeginnings mom we use PlaytexBaby products with Justin and they have been extremely helpful in keeping him independent. Fill it up with water or milk and he’s good to go until it’s empty, thankfully having a lid and being able to fill it means more to drink for him!

Not only can he drink himself without spilling he is able to bring it from room to room while following me around, or just sitting down playing with his toys and not having to stop constantly for a refreshment. Raising confident, independent children is something I have and always will strive for.

He loves making a mess, and this is one thing I’ve learned over the almost 14 years of being a mother, it’s alright. Kids make messes, they make memories and messes like it’s nobody’s business and that is okay. It really is. You can’t expect to have children and not have messes, especially toy messes. I used to be one of those moms who would pick up constantly as the kids followed from room to room messing up behind me but I know better. I tidy up during the day sure, but when the kids are playing and making a big mess in one spot — That mess stays. I’ll clean it up once the day is done, and guess what? That’s alright.

I think as moms we sometimes think we have to live up to being the perfect mom or housewife. I think the photos you see on social media and those edited photos of the perfect family happy and smiling in that perfectly clean room just isn’t realistic and that’s ok.  We don’t have to live up to anything that we don’t put in our own heads. I know, as I used to do it. Play with the kids, get your work done, have a nap on the couch, do yoga — it’s alright!

Kids are only small once, they are only the age they are right now once. I gave up trying to be that picture of perfection, and as long as my kids are happy, healthy, clean and fed – I don’t want anything else. The housework? Can wait. The laundry? Will get folded, but those kids? Those kids are only so small for such a short time – they are what matters. Everything else? Will be alright.

Don’t beat yourself up for what you didn’t get accomplished today. Have someone calling you mom? Are they happy, healthy and thriving? Well, then everything is alright. You are doing a fantastic job!

Disclosure: This is a sponsored post. I am a PlaytexBaby™ ambassador. I receive special perks as part of my affiliation with this group. The opinions on this blog are my own.

35 Comments

  • Reply robin masshole mommy March 21, 2017 at 10:51 am

    Being a mom IS hard and definitely not for everyone, but for those of us who take it on – we are amazing (LOL). Seriously though, it hard, but SO rewarding.

  • Reply Meredith Harrison March 21, 2017 at 10:54 am

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience as a mom. It’s refreshing to see such honesty! While I do not have children of my own yet, I already can see how there is so much pressure on moms to do it all. It’s nice to hear that the perfect mom doesn’t exist and it’s okay to not have it all together!

  • Reply Teresa March 21, 2017 at 3:13 pm

    I loved the nursing period. It really made me settle down and relax and focus on baby and the other kiddos. I was really able to relax and be calm whenever I was nursing. now that my kids are older, I’m running around like a crazy person! ☺

  • Reply Abbie March 21, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    I’m not a mom myself, but love reading mom blogs! I love those cute little playtex cups!

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  • Reply Vicky March 21, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    I love the idea of helping kids be independent and it’s great that Playtex baby is helping with that. It also saves your sanity as you are not always refilling.

  • Reply anvita March 21, 2017 at 4:03 pm

    Love how you ended this post. My son has crossed past the age for sippie cups and bottles. However Thomas is still one of his favorite characters.

  • Reply Amanda Zopp March 21, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    Love this!! So refreshingly honest. I love that even though it was an “Ad” it really didn’t feel that way. It’s so easy to compare our lives to someone else’s “highlight reel”. We always present our best selves on social media. Thanks for being real!!

  • Reply Angela Tolsma March 21, 2017 at 4:32 pm

    this is such a great post. I am not a mom but the idea that there’s a perfect mom out there is mind blowing. Having kids is hard and it’s not easy. Everyday that the kids are tucked safely and happily into bed is a good one, laundry can wait.

  • Reply Joanna @ Everyday Made Fresh March 21, 2017 at 5:04 pm

    Being a mom is so hard, but it is the most rewarding job ever. Playtex has been a favorite baby brand of mine since my first was born, almost 18 years ago.

  • Reply Terri Steffes March 21, 2017 at 7:05 pm

    You are so right, they are only babies for a few months, toddlers for a few years and kids for just a few more years, then they are budding into adulthood and then adults. The time goes way too fast.

  • Reply Marcie March 21, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    I think I need to come to terms with the fact that kids are messy. I feel like I’m constantly wiping up sticky stuff and I can never keep my son’s face free from food (he’s ALWAYS eating, it seems.)

  • Reply Amanda Rosson March 22, 2017 at 7:05 am

    I don’t have kids myself but I really appreciate the honesty and sincerity of this post. I’ve made a vow that when I do have kids one day, I will make them a priority. You are so right – they are only small once.

  • Reply Anna nuttall March 22, 2017 at 7:45 am

    funnily enough my niece has a Thomas the tank engine cup. All mum find motherhood hard, it never easy, but at time it can be rewarding .xx

  • Reply robin masshole mommy March 22, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Spot on – they are only little ONCE and everything else can wait. I try to take in as many small moments I can with my two before they are all grown up.

  • Reply Bill Sweeney March 22, 2017 at 12:59 pm

    I LOVE this! It’s so important to realize that you won’t always get everything on your list finished, and that’s okay.

  • Reply Nikki March 22, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    I agree being a mom is hard work and you want to enjoy your kids not feel pulled in so many directions. Sometimes chores and other tasks just have to wait, or we ask for help. It doesn’t mean we can’t still be super mom just because the laundry didn’t get done.

  • Reply Pam Wattenbarger March 22, 2017 at 2:28 pm

    I really like this post! My kids are grown now but I remember when they were small. It passed so quickly.

  • Reply Angela March 22, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    I’m a fairly new mom and i agree that being a mom is hard. Some days I feel so exhausted that my brain just refuses to cooperate. I always try to do more than what i can manage and that is usually why I end up so tired that not even my bones feel solid anymore. Other days I have the energy of a toddler and I learned to accept that we can’t control everything and just go with the flow is the best approach when t comes to being a mom.

  • Reply Meagan March 22, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    I love that you dropped the picture of perfection. Being a mom is hard enough.

  • Reply Lyd March 22, 2017 at 6:27 pm

    Being a mom is a full-time job! I loved seeing an inside look of motherhood, it’s so important to know that everything can’t be perfect all the time.

  • Reply Cacinda March 22, 2017 at 8:22 pm

    I wouldn’t trade being a mom for anything but it can be very difficult. We all do our best and figure it out as we go.

  • Reply Amanda Love March 22, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    There’s no denying how difficult it is. I think people will always have this impression that moms are superheroes especially if they have more than one. That tumbler sounds awesome! Glad that it does its jib in keeping the liquid in.

  • Reply Theresa March 22, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    Parenting is hard and I applaud you for openly admitting that you don’t get it all done. I don’t think any parent really does! I loved using Playtex products to promote independence when my girls were little. They make such high quality products and their designs are the cutest!

  • Reply Tracy @ Ascending Butterfly March 23, 2017 at 1:25 am

    Not a mom and definitely do not plan on becoming one. I was a Special Ed teacher I’ve done my time with kids, LOL! ;-)

  • Reply Annemarie LeBlanc March 23, 2017 at 9:06 am

    Parenting is the noblest profession in the world. No rest days, no salary, no overtime pay. However, I would never exchange it for anything in this world. My children are all grown ups now, and still, I have never stopped parenting them. Plus of course, this new, enjoyable task of grandparenting. :)

  • Reply Ann Bacciaglia March 23, 2017 at 9:13 am

    My Son used to love to play with his drinks. He would get it everywhere one drip at a time. When I got him a good sippy cup that did not leak it was a game changer.

  • Reply Rachelle March 23, 2017 at 10:25 am

    Being a mom is one of the hardest and most rewarding things I’ve ever done in my life. Ain’t no hood like motherhood right!? I wish they had those cups when my daughter was little!

  • Reply Shannon Gurnee March 23, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    Girl, your kids are so cute! I love this post. Hugs from one mom to another mom.

  • Reply Heather March 23, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    Parenting is so hard in every stage. My almost two year old daughter refuses to wear clothes and is currently dumping every cup she gets her little hands on. Hand her a cup of milk – .25 seconds later she dumps the entire cup and says, “oh no, what happened?”. These Playtex cups look great for her!

  • Reply HilLesha March 23, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    I couldn’t agree more! Motherhood can be one of the most challenging roles, but it is also one of the most rewarding roles. Every time I heard the words “mommy” or “I love you”, I know that I’m doing something right.

  • Reply Chrystal | Nevermore Lane March 23, 2017 at 11:10 pm

    I think you are doing a great job momming ;)
    I think women are their own worst critics. Some don’t mean to, but it can be easy to see how Sue or Jane do it and wonder if they can, why can’t you? And that isn’t just for parenting but for a lot of aspects in life.
    We need to all just sit back and stop sweating the things that really just don’t matter and do our best every day.

  • Reply Jay Simms March 24, 2017 at 8:53 am

    Being a mom is the most amazing thing in the world! I always question if I am doing something right, but I see my kids and they are happy and healthy, so I must be doing something right!

  • Reply Brianne March 25, 2017 at 5:50 pm

    Such a beautiful and real post! I so miss the baby stages!

  • Reply Tiffany March 27, 2017 at 12:04 pm

    Yes! I remember my nursing days and it was as if my body was my own alarm system. i would automatically know when it was time to go because my babies needed me. I agree we as mothers need to let go of trying to be perfect. Instead I feel we should aim for being the best we can be and all our kids need us to be. That is enough.

  • Reply Misty Nelson April 3, 2017 at 11:08 pm

    It’s crazy how fast it flies by. Those first few months we brought our baby home are like a blur now but I still remember how wild it was. Long sleepless nights and days where I hardly got off the couch. And then somehow you wake up with a three-year-old wondering how your baby could have grown so fast.

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