Motherhood is hard. For everyone, not just the new mom or semi-new mom. It’s hard, for everyone. Personally, for me, I get asked all the time how I “do it all” and I don’t. I don’t do it all, in fact, I barely do anything anymore. I’ll be honest, having baby #7 changed a lot of things for me.
For one I can’t just get up and go anymore, I always have to make sure I nurse the baby before I run to the store, go to an event, head to the school, or for a run. I can’t stay out for 4 or 5 hours shopping, at an event or do anything. If the baby doesn’t go with me I have 3 hours max before I need to get home to nurse her. It’s hard, it’s hard to plan and it’s hard to juggle but I do it. I do it because it’s important to me not only to be a good mother but also stick to my commitments and this year I’ve made a promise to myself to say “yes” more.
So, when people ask how I “do it all” instead of simply smiling and just saying, “oh it’s all I know” which is true it is ALL I know, I am just sick of saying it. Sick of people thinking I am some sort of superhero because I have so many kids, and a job — I don’t do it all. My house is a mess most days, the laundry is piled high, there’s always a kid or two angry at me because I cannot give them my 100% undivided attention in that moment… I just simply, don’t do it all. Six Time Mommy has grown to something I never imagined it would, so, I’ve become a lot more focused and busy where that is concerned so things sometimes take priority over making sure that pile of laundry in the corner basket is put away.
My kids are happy, healthy and clean (for the most part, I mean I have 4 boys… are they EVER really clean) and that is all I can really ask for on a daily basis.
Justin, who will be 4 this coming September is my little cling on. He, most days, is the reason not a lot gets done. He is very clingy to me, and always by my side no matter what I’m doing. Bless his little heart he is the biggest mama’s boy if I’ve ever seen one. Recently, he’s been learning how to be a bit more independent.
He likes to sit on the windowsill and play with his dinosaurs, cars, and trucks. He sometimes will make up excuses to ask me for things, “Can I have a drink? my throat is very grumpy and it needs a drink!” is the most popular one, and although we don’t allow food or drinks anywhere beyond the table — This year, by being a #PlaytexMoms and #ForBetterBeginnings mom we use PlaytexBaby products with Justin and they have been extremely helpful in keeping him independent. Fill it up with water or milk and he’s good to go until it’s empty, thankfully having a lid and being able to fill it means more to drink for him!
Not only can he drink himself without spilling he is able to bring it from room to room while following me around, or just sitting down playing with his toys and not having to stop constantly for a refreshment. Raising confident, independent children is something I have and always will strive for.
He loves making a mess, and this is one thing I’ve learned over the almost 14 years of being a mother, it’s alright. Kids make messes, they make memories and messes like it’s nobody’s business and that is okay. It really is. You can’t expect to have children and not have messes, especially toy messes. I used to be one of those moms who would pick up constantly as the kids followed from room to room messing up behind me but I know better. I tidy up during the day sure, but when the kids are playing and making a big mess in one spot — That mess stays. I’ll clean it up once the day is done, and guess what? That’s alright.
I think as moms we sometimes think we have to live up to being the perfect mom or housewife. I think the photos you see on social media and those edited photos of the perfect family happy and smiling in that perfectly clean room just isn’t realistic and that’s ok. We don’t have to live up to anything that we don’t put in our own heads. I know, as I used to do it. Play with the kids, get your work done, have a nap on the couch, do yoga — it’s alright!
Kids are only small once, they are only the age they are right now once. I gave up trying to be that picture of perfection, and as long as my kids are happy, healthy, clean and fed – I don’t want anything else. The housework? Can wait. The laundry? Will get folded, but those kids? Those kids are only so small for such a short time – they are what matters. Everything else? Will be alright.
Don’t beat yourself up for what you didn’t get accomplished today. Have someone calling you mom? Are they happy, healthy and thriving? Well, then everything is alright. You are doing a fantastic job!
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