Back in May 2015 when I went to this special dinner with First Response and Dr. David Greenberg we had just started talking about adding “just one more” to our family. Little did I know one month later I would have a positive pregnancy test, but then a month after that I’d be in the ER learning I was having a miscarriage.
Fertility and Infertility are two very different things, and when I was at this dinner I learned a ton of information that I had to cut down and squeeze into a post — but I have my notes to look back on, and upon doing so I was reminded about the do’s and don’ts which I didn’t take a look at until November when I suffered yet again another pregnancy and 2 months later another miscarriage. I am now currently 23 weeks pregnant with a happy and healthy pregnancy, I feel like every thing does happen for a reason but this pregnancy? After those two miscarriages? Wasn’t planned. We were going to wait, so I truly feel like the advice “Don’t try!” is one that is a must!
Although we have 6 healthy children, that desire to add “just one more” was real – and I felt it in every way. People say, well you already have 6 – and of course it would be those who don’t understand — we aren’t done our family yet, we don’t feel complete and we want just one more. So we are please we are able to get that – I attribute that to the wonderful Q & A I attended with Dr. David Greenberg as he answered so many questions I had, and spoke about experiences and gave advice that even after 6 kids found extremely valuable.
What about those who don’t have any children? or What about adding “just one more?”
Starting a family and having children is something that most couples dream of, and often try to plan for. But the reality for many is that conceiving a child does not come as easily as they would have thought. In Canada, the incidence of fertility issues have risen in the past several decades, with one in six Canadian couples now experiencing fertility-related problems. The result is that what is supposed to be an exciting and happy time, can become a significant source of stress and pressure for the couples that experience challenges along the way.
With National Infertility Awareness Week around the corner (May 12th – 20th), Dr. David Greenberg, Family Physician at St. Joseph Hospital, has some tips to help start the family planning.
- Don’t “try”! – For couples “trying” to conceive, every month can be filled with anxiety and worry. Heightened stress can actually cause more challenges. Therefore, it’s important to live in the moment and just enjoy your partner.
- It’s not your fault – There are many reasons why conceiving a baby may be difficult, but it’s not anyone’s fault. Blaming yourself or your partner won’t fix anything and may lead to more problems, including tension in your relationship.
- Live healthy – Don’t wait until you find out you’re expecting to start making changes to your diet or exercise routine. Once you decide to start trying to conceive, start behaving like you’re already pregnant by eating right, taking prenatal vitamins, avoiding alcohol, stop smoking and exercising sensibly.
- Quit Smoking – As previously mentioned in the live healthy section, you should stop smoking. But this is such an important thing to do, and it can have a huge effect on your chances of conceiving, so it’s important that you do try your best. Quitting smoking is a tough thing, but everyone can go about it in different ways. Some people are comfortable going completely cold turkey, whilst others need the help of things like nicotine patches and even find that vaping can help. Vaping also reduces the nicotine content that you’re consuming. Different vaping devices are used for different purposes. The PAX 3 vaporizer is a portable cannabis vaporizer, which is mainly used for loose leaf and concentrates. With higher concentration in lower dosages, you have a better chance of controlling your urges (apparently the different E Liquids are useful for stopping your cravings). Just remember to do whatever works best for you.
- Know yourself – Improve your odds of conceiving by having sex on the days when conception is likeliest to happen. Every woman’s body is unique and, when trying to become pregnant, your individual cycle should be taken into consideration. The First Response™ Digital Ovulation Test detects and tracks your personal daily baseline levels of luteinizing hormone (LH) to detect your personal LH surge, unlike other ovulation tests that use a preset “average” level to determine an LH surge.
- Know when to see an expert – Most couples who are trying to conceive will become pregnant within a year. For others it can take longer. If it’s taking longer than you expected to conceive, it’s always a good idea to speak to your doctor about what you should be doing to improve your chances of conceiving.
For those who know someone trying to conceive, the most important thing is to be supportive and understanding. Please remember that every woman is different. It’s important to consult your doctor to find the best steps for you.
Disclosure: I am part of the Chruch & Dwight 2016 blogger ambassador program. However, all opinions are mine and 100% true.