Things You Should Avoid Saying to a Pregnant Woman

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We’ve all had those moments we’d like to erase = those moments when our mouth reacts before our brains and we say things that we really wish we hadn’t. It happens to the best of us and no matter who, when or what, it is often embarrassing and something that will fondly remain vivid in your mind for a long time to come. Many times our mouths react before our brains when we learn the news of a new pregnancy.

Here are a few things that you should never, ever, under any circumstances, say to a pregnant woman. Did I mention ever? No matter how hard it is, stop your mouth before it has the chance to insert the foot deep and cause you great embarrassment for a long time ahead. These are some things to avoid:

“You’re Too Old to Have a Baby” This is really offensive to a pregnant woman you don’t know. When you are a friend or a family member, it is heart-breaking for the pregnant woman to hear. It is definitely not something that you want to say, no matter what your opinion of the matter. A baby is always a blessing, no matter the soon-to-be mom’s age.

“Your Stretch Marks Are Horrible” Don’t say it, please. Pregnant women are very emotional. They know those lines are there and I’m certain they’re none too happy about it as it is. You noticed them; fine. Next subject.

“Can You Handle Another Baby?” Again, none of your business the age of the children or the number, so refrain from making any comments.

“Wow! You’re Huge!” Some women put on more weight than others and that is okay. A pregnant belly is a beautiful baby. Even if you mean nothing ‘bad’ by this statement it can be taken as such. Just keep it to yourself.

“Can I Touch Your Belly?” Can I rub your head? Awkward question, wouldn’t you agree? Well, a pregnant woman feels the exact same way when strange people ask if they can touch her stomach. You don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable right?

“Don’t Do This/ Do That” While your advice is certainly appreciated, if it is desired you will be asked. If you’re not, it is probably best that you just keep your thoughts to yourself. Even well-meaning suggestions can be offensive to others. Unless you’re really close to the pregnant woman, just don’t give out your advice so freely.

I know, I know some of these things can be said to be out of love and support but honestly, it’s best just to chat and be an ear rather than say too much! I know right now I’m very sensitive and some things people say either hurt my feelings easily or make me very angry, and often for no reason. Let’s not forget these pregnancy hormones!

What is the worst thing you’ve heard said to a pregnant woman you know or you’ve been told about?

23 comments

  1. Thank you! The biggest one for me was touching my belly. Please just stop. I’m not rubbing your belly full of food, so keep your hands off my belly full of baby! Hahahaha.

    Can you picture now… ‘Awe, there is a pizza in there… Hi pizza, i’m your aunt’ =|

  2. The worst thing I’ve heard was that morning sickness was all in my head. People just don’t get it sometimes.

  3. Pregnancy was NOT fun for me, both times… I remember thinking why on earth did that guy ask to feel my belly… my husband (soon to be Ex) used to say things ‘as jokes’ that were not things to be said to a pregnant woman… wish he would’ve read this back then!

  4. I always find it interesting what others have said to pregnant woman. I have not been pregnant before but some of these things people say make me shake my head, because who says some of these things. Great list!

  5. I don’t understand people who even can see things out loud to pregnant women. It just dumbfounds me. And asking to touch your belly, yikes!! I sound like a cranky old lady but can’t people just be happy and say congratulations! when are due? and leave it at that. Or say nothing at all.

  6. I couldn’t agree with this more! The comments I got while pregnant, even though most had a good intent, bugged me so much. The worst was “You look like you’re ready to pop!” when I was only 6 months pregnant. I already felt huge, and that just made it worse.

  7. Thanks for the points leaning towards proper etiquette here.
    It is good to keep in mind some empathy for the pregnant friend/stranger by understanding her emotions are running higher and to simply mind your own mouth! ;)

  8. I always choose words whenever I’m talking to a pregnant friend. It’s important to mind some empathy because I believe, preggies are more emotionally sensitive. I will keep this article and share this to my friends as soon as I get pregnant. :D :D :D

  9. Omg yes to all of this!!! When I was preggo I swear people, even people I really didn’t know thought they could just grab my stomach. It was so annoying!!

  10. Yikes! I can’t believe the things some people say. It is amazing how people feel free to touch pregnant women or say whatever they want.

  11. This is a great list of things not to say to a pregnant woman. I used to so dislike being told how big I was during my pregnancies. Thanks for sharing this list.

  12. “When’s the baby due?” after I’d delivered a few weeks prior was unpleasant, lol I understand it was good meaning, but that was 23 years ago and I still remember it. ;)

  13. People can be so ignorant sometimes. I never understood what makes people think they can make comments to pregnant women or reach out to touch them. They need to learn some boundaries and mind their business.

  14. I never thought about this until I got pregnant for the first time. I’ve never said anything crazy to a pregnant person so I never thought it was a thing.

    You find out just how rude some people can be.

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